I am a very lucky man!!
I am in love with a vivacious, funny, clever, wise and attractive woman.
And even more amazingly, she loves me too!
Like I say - I am blessed and very lucky. Very lucky that we found each other.
I think that to live a fulfilled life, with or without money, the key is to have a life filled with positive emotions, the most powerful of which is love.
They say Xmas is a time of giving and receiving and that the giving of a gift is the best part. I do agree with this, as I do enjoy watching the present being opened and the delight (usually!) that the gift brings.
But I think that giving and receiving should be an all year round desire, as it is very fulfilling and nutures the soul and emotions.
I love doing things for my fiancee, and even when it is making dinner, it is great to feel that I have done something good and even better when I get a smile and a thanks.
Very important the thanks in a relationship. I hadn't realised what a difference it can make until my fiancee started this when we got together, and it is now something that we do all the time.
That is not to say it is automatic - it is always said with love and with feeling and because we want to and mean it.
Love comes in various guises, and strengths, but does make us stronger and more emotional as well. The more we love, the more positive energy we pour into the universe and the more we are likely to get out of life.
My fiancee is such a caring, giving, thoughtful person, even with all the challenges that she has endured and overcome in life (including me at times).
She is an inspiration to me and someone who loves me and looks out for me ,and helps me to improve my life and achievements. I only hope that I can be there for her as well, and try to give back as much as I can.
I feel that I will always have been the luckier person, but that wont stop me from giving back to her as much as I can, and try to be as unselfish as possible in my life - not just with her but with friends, colleagues and acquaintances.
So - being loved and loving someone in turn is to be blessed in life, and to (hopefully) be able to shuffle of this mortal coil having enriched someone elses life who is very special, and touched someone elses soul in a positive way.
After all, love makes the world go round doesn't it? (Because it certainly aint money - what there is of it!)
Sorry if this has not been the most strucutred of dialogues, but I am writing from the heart, and writing it down as I think of it. Better that way, I think, than a clinical dissection of the subject matter or a considered and delivered text (even if it may read better!).
Let me know if you disagree and I will try to write the next blog as more of a professional (or rather beginner) writer.
Signing off for now
Steve
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Sunday, October 16, 2011
How to feel Younger !
There are many things that make us all feel older, not least of which is the current economic environment, the stress in our jobs (on SO many levels) and the person we share our lives with.
On the other hand, these can all make us feel younger, more carefree, less stressed etc etc.
THE most important, I think (in my humble opinion), is the person I share my life with now.
I am blessed and very lucky to have met her, and that not only do I love her, but that she loves me back just as much.
However, that is not the only reason - loving someone is not enough to make you feel happy and therefore feel younger and more alive, and counteract all of those other pressures and negative events that happen on a daily basis.
It is the feeling of truly sharing a life with someone who you feel IN love with, and feel passionate about and really fancy the pants off ! AND that feels the same about you as well (big cheesy grin at this point!!)
I am divorced, and happy to admit that this is the best thing that has happened to me in my personal life, although it didnt feel like it at the time. However, my (now) ex-wife did make one comment that stuck with me and was very perceptive.... she said that I loved her but was nmot IN love with her.
After a time, when I was able to view this conversationwith less emotion, I realised that she was right, and that this had been a problem with the relationship and meant that it had been a comfortable relationship.
But, it didn't have the passion and fire that my current relationship has, and that is such a huge difference.
The fates conspired to bring us together, and 5 years later, we are still together and engaged to be married.
I couldn't be happier
I totally feel younger because of her, and without her life would be greyer, and my hair would be greyer as well !
I think I will continue this theme for my next blog, as I feel very strongly about that it was fate (or some other force) that drew us together, and these things are very important to recognise and not ignore.
Life would be very different if either of us had ignored what we felt and what the fates were trying to tell us !
See you anon
Gizmo99
On the other hand, these can all make us feel younger, more carefree, less stressed etc etc.
THE most important, I think (in my humble opinion), is the person I share my life with now.
I am blessed and very lucky to have met her, and that not only do I love her, but that she loves me back just as much.
However, that is not the only reason - loving someone is not enough to make you feel happy and therefore feel younger and more alive, and counteract all of those other pressures and negative events that happen on a daily basis.
It is the feeling of truly sharing a life with someone who you feel IN love with, and feel passionate about and really fancy the pants off ! AND that feels the same about you as well (big cheesy grin at this point!!)
I am divorced, and happy to admit that this is the best thing that has happened to me in my personal life, although it didnt feel like it at the time. However, my (now) ex-wife did make one comment that stuck with me and was very perceptive.... she said that I loved her but was nmot IN love with her.
After a time, when I was able to view this conversationwith less emotion, I realised that she was right, and that this had been a problem with the relationship and meant that it had been a comfortable relationship.
But, it didn't have the passion and fire that my current relationship has, and that is such a huge difference.
The fates conspired to bring us together, and 5 years later, we are still together and engaged to be married.
I couldn't be happier
I totally feel younger because of her, and without her life would be greyer, and my hair would be greyer as well !
I think I will continue this theme for my next blog, as I feel very strongly about that it was fate (or some other force) that drew us together, and these things are very important to recognise and not ignore.
Life would be very different if either of us had ignored what we felt and what the fates were trying to tell us !
See you anon
Gizmo99
Thursday, October 13, 2011
The mind feels one age - the body another!
My first blog! Thought I would try it out as so many others want to speak out to the world, so I thought I would join in.
Went to see my best friend last weekend and the subject of age came up, so for a short journey into the world of blogging I thought I would use this as a first subject.
Being the mature age of early 40s, why is it that I still feel around about 25 in my mind, but my body is feeling like it's correct age (most days - but not today when I feel like a creaky 80 year old!). Why doesn't my mind keep pace with the body? It probably doesn't want to, but unfortunately, I have notiuced that the body doesn't heal as quick as it used to, and creaks in a lot more places tha it used to - so I do get the frequent reminder that it isn't 25 any longer. :-)
I know what age I am, and when I look in the mirror I am comfortable (but resigned to the fact) that I see a mid 40s looking man staring back at me that still bear some resemblance to that youthful bright-eyed innocent lad of my early 20s (back in the good old late 80s/early 90s).
What I would like to know is why the mind likes to retain an age of the favourite era of life, when you are nice and relaxed and away from the seriousness of working life and the weight of the working experiences.
Saying that, I like feeling 25 in my mind when not at work, even if the body doesnt quite live up to the expectations of the mind! Will save the serious, mid 40s approach to life for the office !
Signing off for the time being.
Gizmo99
Went to see my best friend last weekend and the subject of age came up, so for a short journey into the world of blogging I thought I would use this as a first subject.
Being the mature age of early 40s, why is it that I still feel around about 25 in my mind, but my body is feeling like it's correct age (most days - but not today when I feel like a creaky 80 year old!). Why doesn't my mind keep pace with the body? It probably doesn't want to, but unfortunately, I have notiuced that the body doesn't heal as quick as it used to, and creaks in a lot more places tha it used to - so I do get the frequent reminder that it isn't 25 any longer. :-)
I know what age I am, and when I look in the mirror I am comfortable (but resigned to the fact) that I see a mid 40s looking man staring back at me that still bear some resemblance to that youthful bright-eyed innocent lad of my early 20s (back in the good old late 80s/early 90s).
What I would like to know is why the mind likes to retain an age of the favourite era of life, when you are nice and relaxed and away from the seriousness of working life and the weight of the working experiences.
Saying that, I like feeling 25 in my mind when not at work, even if the body doesnt quite live up to the expectations of the mind! Will save the serious, mid 40s approach to life for the office !
Signing off for the time being.
Gizmo99
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